To Be Magnetic

Lacy Phillips:

In my practice, I study my most magnetic clients. We’re talking about the person who’ll say “I have this company, and wouldn’t it be cool if Vogue wrote about it?” And then Vogue emails that night. They’re so magnetic, and everything they want comes to them.

The most major commonality lucky people share is that they’re incredibly vulnerable and honest. It’s a kind of humble, authentic honesty. They are fully in their authenticity, meaning they’re not hiding. Nothing’s owning them.

Lucky people don’t do the ego dance, which is when we go out into public or we’re around somebody new and low self-worth leads us to question: “Who should I be? Will they love me? What do I say for them to love?” Magnetic people don’t do that. They share a dissociation from that ego dance and they’re just presently, authentically, vulnerably themselves.

There is also the very rare unicorn who grew up in an environment where they were incredibly loved, believed in; there wasn’t any shame. Things come to them because they are whole.

And:

What we don’t own owns us. Anywhere we have shadows still, where we are judging or projecting, it’s just where we’re wanting to be loved.

And:

A huge component of what creates that force, that pull, magnetism, if you will, is self-worth. Anytime I would step into my power, and no longer settle for things where I had been really small or insecure in the past, and say no—and claim my power—what I wanted would connect with me. Thinking positive had nothing to do with it; it was standing in my power and strength and worth and not settling for less that mattered.

And:

1. START SAYING NO. This applies to anything that’s not a “hell yes” in your life. Anytime you’re people-pleasing or doing something because you think you should be, or settling, what you’re communicating energetically and projecting is: “I’m not worth doing what I want” or “I don’t feel valuable enough to do what I want, therefore I’m going to keep staying small.” Whenever you’re in that mode, you’re just going to keep attracting the same lessons over and over and over again. Create boundaries and say no to what’s not a yes. That’s the number one thing somebody can do right away.

2. TAKE UP MORE SPACE. Look at anywhere in your life where you’re being small right now. Where you know you desire more and you’re worth more inside. Maybe you’re still in the job you hate. You’re still dating that person who treats you like shit or you’re still going out with the emotionally unavailable person. Wherever you’re small, you’re not able to create; it’s a block in your life. There’s no magnetism. To feed your magnetism, start accepting only what makes you feel big and true to who you are.

And:

What we don’t own owns us. Anywhere we have shadows still, where we are judging or projecting, it’s just where we’re wanting to be loved. The moment we integrate that and take our power back, anything that was making us feel insecure no longer exists. We’re in our worthy selves, and we can attract the thing that we’re wanting.