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Oprah’s friends:

“I don’t have a lot of friends,” Oprah said. “Everybody knows Gayle [King]. There’s Gayle, there’s Maria, there’s Bob [Greene]. And that’s about it, you know? Gayle and Maria, I met around the same time; Gayle and I [have been friends for] 42 years, Maria and I [have also been friends for] 42 years. I never really expanded that circle until recently. You know, I had become friends with a couple of people in my later adult life in the past five years.”

Oprah wrote the foreword to Bob‘s 2008 book The Best Life Diet and said, “Bob Greene was the answer to my prayers. When I first met Bob at that last-ditch-effort spa in Colorado, I thought for sure he was judging and labeling me as I had already judged and labeled myself — fat and out of control. Bob, it turned out, wasn’t judging me at all. He really understood.”

Reddit:

Step #1: Write a life vision for yourself

How do you envision your life a few weeks, months, or years from now?

Spend a whole day (or week) thinking about this.

Don’t say I don’t know what to do with my life.

Are you telling me you have no clue what you want in any of the following areas: study, work, family, friends, hobbies, health, etc.?

Even if you’re not sure, you need to give your life some direction.

This is by far the most important part of recovering from pornography addiction.

Write like crazy. Write many pages if you want. Make the biggest post you’ve ever done in your journal talking about how you envision your future life.

This life vision will be the foundation of your reboot.

This is what you will focus on 100% from now on.

Close your eyes. Visualize it. Write it down.

Step #2: Give urgency to your life vision

So this is what you’re going to do now:

You’re going to give urgency to your life vision.

Write down why you ABSOLUTELY MUST start working on it right now.

Make another huge post or journal entry about it.

Step #3: Develop an indestructible belief in yourself

One of the main reasons we quit goals is because deep inside we don’t believe we’re actually able to do it.

When successful people like Arnold Schwarzenegger decide they want to achieve something, they become completely obsessed about it. They have an indestructible belief that they will achieve it.

They are not affected by circumstances. They create results in their head before they even get them.

This is what you have to do if you want to accomplish anything.

Lacy Phillips:

In my practice, I study my most magnetic clients. We’re talking about the person who’ll say “I have this company, and wouldn’t it be cool if Vogue wrote about it?” And then Vogue emails that night. They’re so magnetic, and everything they want comes to them.

The most major commonality lucky people share is that they’re incredibly vulnerable and honest. It’s a kind of humble, authentic honesty. They are fully in their authenticity, meaning they’re not hiding. Nothing’s owning them.

Lucky people don’t do the ego dance, which is when we go out into public or we’re around somebody new and low self-worth leads us to question: “Who should I be? Will they love me? What do I say for them to love?” Magnetic people don’t do that. They share a dissociation from that ego dance and they’re just presently, authentically, vulnerably themselves.

There is also the very rare unicorn who grew up in an environment where they were incredibly loved, believed in; there wasn’t any shame. Things come to them because they are whole.

And:

What we don’t own owns us. Anywhere we have shadows still, where we are judging or projecting, it’s just where we’re wanting to be loved.

And:

A huge component of what creates that force, that pull, magnetism, if you will, is self-worth. Anytime I would step into my power, and no longer settle for things where I had been really small or insecure in the past, and say no—and claim my power—what I wanted would connect with me. Thinking positive had nothing to do with it; it was standing in my power and strength and worth and not settling for less that mattered.

And:

1. START SAYING NO. This applies to anything that’s not a “hell yes” in your life. Anytime you’re people-pleasing or doing something because you think you should be, or settling, what you’re communicating energetically and projecting is: “I’m not worth doing what I want” or “I don’t feel valuable enough to do what I want, therefore I’m going to keep staying small.” Whenever you’re in that mode, you’re just going to keep attracting the same lessons over and over and over again. Create boundaries and say no to what’s not a yes. That’s the number one thing somebody can do right away.

2. TAKE UP MORE SPACE. Look at anywhere in your life where you’re being small right now. Where you know you desire more and you’re worth more inside. Maybe you’re still in the job you hate. You’re still dating that person who treats you like shit or you’re still going out with the emotionally unavailable person. Wherever you’re small, you’re not able to create; it’s a block in your life. There’s no magnetism. To feed your magnetism, start accepting only what makes you feel big and true to who you are.

And:

What we don’t own owns us. Anywhere we have shadows still, where we are judging or projecting, it’s just where we’re wanting to be loved. The moment we integrate that and take our power back, anything that was making us feel insecure no longer exists. We’re in our worthy selves, and we can attract the thing that we’re wanting.

Reddit:

Anger can be an amazing fuel. Everything big that I’ve accomplished has been fueled by anger/resentment. The best revenge is a life well lived. However, if you’re not going to make your resentment useful, you should let it go because it is just making your life worse. It’s not hurting the person you are angry at. It’s just hurting you.

I’ve found that forgiving the person I’m angry at (and forgiving myself) is the only way to get ride of my anger. That doesn’t mean you trust that person again. Learn the lessons you can from the experience. After you’ve learned, let it go and forgive them. You forgive someone for you, not for them.

And:

I backpack and hike till Im tired, and because I know Im really alone I “talk” to the trees and just figure out why I’m angry. If I can’t hike I’ll do that on long drives. Just figure myself out and ask if that energy is worth it.

You know it’s bad when you run to the woods!

And:

I let it out. I angrily clean, I furiously work out, I have an angry conversation with an imaginary person/vent, I throw my pillow at the wall.

Then I think about what or who I am angry at. If it’s a person, I think about what they did or said and why it made me so angry and then I ask myself if it’s something I need to approach them about or if it’s some thing that isn’t worth getting into. I think, will being angry at them help me? When I’m calmer, will I feel guilty about getting so angry? I ask if it will matter in a few years.

Going through that mental checklist usually helps me calm down and sort out some priorities. If it’s something that I can talk to someone about and maybe find a solution, then I’ll approach the person when I feel calmer. If it’s some thing that I know no amount of talking will fix, or they won’t be receptive to it, then I decide how important it is to me. If it’s some thing that I can live with and let go, I let it go.

The important thing is that anger doesn’t turn into resentment. Because that just is a waste of energy and makes you incredibly bitter. If I’m angry, I tell myself that I’m angry and then I decide if its worth it.

Reddit:

Quite a few years ago, I had an intensive half-day session with a therapist to discuss a bunch of things I was going through at the time and we touched on some anger/frustration issues I was experiencing with my Mum.

The therapist asked me whether, in my general life, I was wasteful or prudent with money. I told her that by and large, I was risk-averse, and not prone to frittering away my hard-earned dollars. She then said something incredibly profound: Me holding onto my anger and frustration with my mother was resulting in me ending my days emotionally in the red, because I was frittering away all my “emotional cash” on reacting to her. I could either continue to allow her to drain me of my reserves, or I could choose to actively let go of my natural reaction to her behaviour. If I chose the former, I’d continue to end my days in the red; if I chose the latter, I’d be that much richer emotionally from having just let it go.

It’s a lesson I’ve not forgotten and in fact, have applied it to many other people and situations since. ?

Reddit:

A few things will help – one is to understand where anger comes from. Anger is very useful because it shows you where your needs have not been met. It is usually hiding a deep sadness or fear.

It is the thought you tell yourself about the unfairness or disrepect of the situation that is making you angry, not the situation itself – this means that something happened where your need was not met… Ask yourself what was that? Was it safety, being listened, respected or loved? etc….

When this happened or you think about it again, another thought flashes into your mind that says it was unfair or horrible BECAUSE………… and this is what is making you angry.

You can use this anger to have your needs met in the future. It might be a good idea to find a safe and super private place where you can SCREAM and let it all out, and punch a bunch of pillows………… I’m not even joking! It will help.

Next thing, is to use the emotional freedom technique. Also called EFT Tapping. It is profound. I have tapped for thousands of hours on myself and with clients – because it words profoundly. I highly recommend you trying it. You can do it by yourself or you could follow along with youtube videos. Of course with most things like this it is best with a gifted practitioner, of which there are thousands of practitioners in The World now, so you will b able to find someone who resonates with you…

Rather than getting angry at yourself for getting angry – this makes it stick. There is a process used in eft, which I liken to emotional alchemy. When you accept you feel that way, let it move through you, express it, lean towards it, understand it AND send it love – you will shift the feeling. If you want to know more feel free to PM me, moving emotion through is one of my greatest passions because not many people know how to do it properly. But it’s actually real easy….

But truly, the only way out is through. So find that safe place to accept your anger and let it out, while focusing on what need wasn’t met and you might eventually find yourself in tears. This is healthy and will also pass, but don’t fight it. It is trapped energy aand crying and anger happens for a reason.

Reddit:

You want to let go? Get grateful. Angel was and is grateful for everything in her life. There were even moments when she was grateful for her step dad. She is the most amazing person I’ve ever known because despite everything, she chose gratitude, happiness, and love.

For myself, I truely forgave my brother by finding gratitude, appriciation, and understanding.

Be grateful you have lived your life and all that’s happened in it. And remember, you can always choose to smile.

Reddit:

Thoughts and emotions are pathways, they become a habit and you need to work to retrain your brain to ‘not go there’. Its like quitting smoking or anything else, it takes work. Its like learning a new emotional language. It will take a while and you will have to make a solid effort to avoid thinking and dwelling on the negative but it can be done.

Don’t watch ‘downer’ movies or listen to much anger, don’t watch Jerry Springer and ease up on Fox news, ease up on heavy metal and dark music. Take in uplifting stuff, positive messages, motivational things. Get lots of exercise, do other things that will make you better, take a ceramics class or photography. Stay busy, don’t sit still, whenever it creeps in get up and do something else.

Yea it feels weird going out of your way trying to be happy, at first it feels like some sort of con of a joke, like your trying to trick yourself. Yea I miss my gothic music and my Slayer and the horror movies and all that but when you get all that out of your head (garbage in garbage out)

Listen to classical music, go for walks, volunteer at a homeless shelters, go out of your way to be nice to strangers, work at it and after a while your not faking it and one day you realize it’s become a self fulfilling prophecy.

Reddit:

Hi Everyone

I have just been scrolling through and being inspired when I came across a comment that said “if you just scroll through techniques that is all you will manifest – new techniques”

So its time to stop and tell my story

I am a successful property developer and owner of a construction company -who happens to be 61 year old woman When I was 57 I decided to become a property developer and change my financial life. In October 2021 I decided to start my own build company and I am developing 3 sites at present where I am the main contractor- the development value of these three sites is in excess of 5.5 million. I have another development which will be finished in July that has a development value of 5 million

Since October 2017 I have manifested this multi million property pipeline and I have raised millions in private equity

However, as a result of being a life long follower of the new thought movement Florence Schinn etc and then Neville I have a lot of projects coming to fruition at one time and I need to be super focused because I am so successful it brings its own challenges

The techniques I will be using – the complete acceptance that I have created everything in my life including the “problems”

Everyone is me pushed out

The whispering technique

Really focusing on joyful vibration and “living in the end” – I think this is super important because it would be very easy for me to feel “stressed”

I read the posts that are about attracting an SP and I can tell you I have a beautiful marriage to a fabulous man who I have been with for 35 years. The first time I saw him I heard a voice in my head that said “I could marry this man”. He thought I was an “Irish Witch” and didn’t ask me out for two years

We have had a glorious life together and we have 4 grown up children, in spite of me being told at 21 that I would never have children and he had testicular cancer at 25

Our life together has been filled with adventure, there is not a problem that people fear that we have not faced except we have never been unfaithful to one another, we have remained true to our love and our children – in our youth we were both “lookers” – we have had times when we had lots of money and no money

At this point in my life I can look back and see what I have created and what my peers have created I was derided for my beliefs – they even called me Pollyanna

However, I want to say to you all this way of life is the only path to walk. When I look at other people my age it stuns me that most still cannot adopt these beliefs and manifest a better life – its never too late

Now in the next six months I have a number of situations upon which I must use” the scissors of revision’ and remained focused so I will continue to hangout here and be inspired by all of you and I will be rooting for your success and I will keep you advised of mine