A few things will help – one is to understand where anger comes from. Anger is very useful because it shows you where your needs have not been met. It is usually hiding a deep sadness or fear.
It is the thought you tell yourself about the unfairness or disrepect of the situation that is making you angry, not the situation itself – this means that something happened where your need was not met… Ask yourself what was that? Was it safety, being listened, respected or loved? etc….
When this happened or you think about it again, another thought flashes into your mind that says it was unfair or horrible BECAUSE………… and this is what is making you angry.
You can use this anger to have your needs met in the future. It might be a good idea to find a safe and super private place where you can SCREAM and let it all out, and punch a bunch of pillows………… I’m not even joking! It will help.
Next thing, is to use the emotional freedom technique. Also called EFT Tapping. It is profound. I have tapped for thousands of hours on myself and with clients – because it words profoundly. I highly recommend you trying it. You can do it by yourself or you could follow along with youtube videos. Of course with most things like this it is best with a gifted practitioner, of which there are thousands of practitioners in The World now, so you will b able to find someone who resonates with you…
Rather than getting angry at yourself for getting angry – this makes it stick. There is a process used in eft, which I liken to emotional alchemy. When you accept you feel that way, let it move through you, express it, lean towards it, understand it AND send it love – you will shift the feeling. If you want to know more feel free to PM me, moving emotion through is one of my greatest passions because not many people know how to do it properly. But it’s actually real easy….
But truly, the only way out is through. So find that safe place to accept your anger and let it out, while focusing on what need wasn’t met and you might eventually find yourself in tears. This is healthy and will also pass, but don’t fight it. It is trapped energy aand crying and anger happens for a reason.